I’ve been here for some time now, but I’ve never written a single word. Honestly, I may not have the talent to create, so I have to write a little bit of experience, don’t laugh.
First of all, this article does not comment on the value of chastity. It is common sense that there is a difference between the new and the old, the opened and the unopened. Some people who are not rich and have low self-esteem say that rich people are not necessarily happy, that rich people are bad, and so on, and this is often the case with women who do not have chastity.
In fact, yes is yes, no is no, in the normal mind to see it is finished. Many people accuse men of being feudalistic and possessive, which is why they emphasize chastity. The truth is: it is because unlike men, women usually value their first time as sacred, and that is why men value chastity. Imagine a society where everyone is casual, so it doesn’t matter if it’s your first time or not, it’s your feelings that count. However, in a conservative society, the first sexual relationship often represents a relationship that is deeply engraved in the heart, the first man is indeed the future man can not be replaced, at this time, chastity is important.
Does virginity really not matter? If you have had sex with more than two or three men, then after the fourth or fifth man, you will be completely “liberalized”. Not only is sex more casual, the tolerance of the partner, the love will be discounted. As for love, mutual tolerance, acceptance, and dedication to love are the fundamentals of maintaining love. Without these, each other will not be assured, then you blame the man suspected that you do not have chastity, is really wronged him.
You say it’s feudal and selfish for a man to want to own you completely, so can you tolerate your husband having another woman? Most women can’t. So can you promise to be faithful only to your husband after marriage? Of course you would try to promise that.
But women with or without chastity are very different in their likelihood of keeping that promise.
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Identifying virginity cannot be done by the hymen method now, because many women (including prostitutes) do hymen reconstruction when they want to get married. I have two methods to offer to identify virginity, one physical and one psychological; for the first method, anyone can do it, but there are limitations; for the latter method, it has to be a man with worldly experience and maturity to be able to utilize it.
Physiological methods.
1. There is a considerable part of women, after a certain period of sexual life (one or two years) vagina will be loose. Sex with her lack of pleasure, feel very loose. You should know that never had xxx virgin, her pussy door is closed, never had even a little bit of small open, so you inserted, must be clamped very tight, very comfortable.
It is important to note that not all women will be loose within a year or two. So: the loose must not be a virgin; not loose is not necessarily a virgin.
2. Virgins in the first time × × generally because of the fear of tension and pain and other reasons, less physiological pleasure, they also do not know how to experience and enjoy physiological pleasure. So and you doubt whether the virginity of the woman to make love, to pick her mood is good, and you and I am very sweet time, the weather should be good, in short, all the environment is good, all the conditions are available.
At the same time, you should be careful not to ejaculate prematurely this time, either by masturbating once beforehand, or by drinking alcohol in moderation, for example after celebrating her birthday. Do all you can to caress her and turn her on. Sexually experienced women in this situation is difficult to self-control, if you find that her body and you with very good, she will be very active and very tightly drive you to insert her, the action is so natural, so just right, she in your long time under the thrusting to achieve orgasm, she must have a problem.
3. The human face-to-face sex position is the best lovemaking position to express love, and a virgin’s first time must be in this position. She wants to hold you, let you to press her, conquer her, so that their whole life (she hopes so) dedicated. In this case, if you want to play rear entry to deflower her, it will be reluctant. Usually she won’t let you do that, or even get angry with you.
4. If the first time is not broken, then later try different sex positions. You should know that the false virgin at first guarded heart strong, more heart, so that you are not easy to recognize. Later, a long time, slacken off, think they have a plan, it is easy to expose. Because every woman tries a new sex position, need to debug and adapt. Some positions for some women, to try many times to experience pleasure.
For example, the first time the woman will feel embarrassed to do the woman on top position, will not know how to move, seem very clumsy; rear entry position is the same, she will be embarrassed, will not know how to coordinate with your rhythm. If you change to a new position, the woman shows that she is familiar with it, she must have a problem. Of course, this aspect and whether or not educated, whether or not sports is better, whether or not you have seen pornography will have an impact, but basically there will not be too much difference.
5. A woman’s first time is unforgettable and memorable. If she is really a virgin, between the bed, the moon in the sky whispering, will again and again recall the first time you two.
If she seldom mentioned, you have to be careful, you can take the initiative to recall the “first time”, if she responded coldly, and then digress, that she has a ghost in mind.
Psychological law.
The psychological method needs to be done by men who are a little older (27 or 8), who have experienced society and have been around people for a long time. You have to be able to recognize and read people.
The genuine shyness that a real virgin carries with her cannot be imitated by the most skillful fake-virgin actor.
You’ve been through society and know a lot of people and you can tell the difference between real shyness and staged shyness. The biggest problem with actors is that they overact because they don’t understand the role, and in turn lose their true colors. This is never the case with Liu Xiaoqing’s plays, because she is actually very empty inside and has not received any serious education, so she can’t eat up and integrate into the role; Dustin Hoffman plays Rain Man very much like a man, not by exaggerated expressions and movements, but by the realization of their spiritual world gained by living with the mentally ill. In living with a fake virgin, you can play the fool and let her do the acting, and she will eventually reveal herself!
A woman who has never slept with a man will keep a distance from him, not so with one who has, and the nuances must be discerned clearly by a mature man.
This distance includes physical things, such as: the distance between her body and the man’s when she talks to him, the length of time she looks at him directly, and whether she makes gestures that don’t look good (e.g., if she drops something under the desk, does she pick it up from the man’s buttocks… etc.); and psychological things, such as: whether she talks to the man with a lightness of voice or not, whether she makes jokes about him or not; and also in terms of relationships, such as. Do you often go out alone with different men (to the movies, for coffee, to play ball games, etc.)?
(Note that traveling alone is not a problem in itself; people can always try to be friends with other people before you! The issue is whether or not it’s easier for her to go on solo outings with different men on a regular basis. Outings are not so much about xxx as they are a kind of yardstick for how much men and women interact with each other. (Virgins are generally more wary of men and are definitely not as good at this as people who have been there), whether they go to the ballroom regularly and dance with men in ordinary relationships, etc.
In short, the psychological method depends on your inner experience. An experienced old fox will not be deceived by a fake virgin.
Thank you, everyone, for your valuable comments.