1) Why would anyone want anal sex?
For many people, anal sex is quite a taboo. Ass sex sounds vulgar and dirty, while sodomy sounds more technical. In the 90’s, anal sex was given a bad rap because HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, is very easily transmitted through anal sex. Some people loved anal sex, some hated it. Some were curious because they had never tried it. A large number of people are attracted to anal sex because of its taboo and mystery.
2) What is mouth-to-anal stimulation?
There is one part of the body that some people like to lick and some people like to be licked: the anus. The anus has about half of the nerve endings in the pelvic area, and many people find that touching it is sexually arousing. Although we haven’t talked about ‘safe sex’ in this series of SEXFAQs so far, here’s what we’re going to talk about: the anus and rectum can harbor a fair amount of germs that are harmless there, but can cause harm in the mouth or stomach. Oral-anal stimulation is a dangerous behavior that can cause many bacterial diseases. If you or your partner enjoys it, mouth-to-anal stimulation is a dangerous behavior that can cause many bacterial diseases. If you or your partner enjoys this behavior, then please refer to the ‘Safe Sex Tips’ section to find out how you can protect yourself from ejaculation.
3) Does anal sex hurt?
Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you are doing it the wrong way. With enough lubrication and patience, anal sex can be a safe and satisfying part of your sex life. However there are many people who simply don’t enjoy it, and if your partner is one of those people, respect his or her limits. Don’t force him/her to accept the idea.
4) Can anal sex really be fun?
Anal sex can be fun in many ways. Doing something ‘dirty’, especially about sex, is quite appealing to many people. It has become fashionable to do different things to spice up your sex life.
And the sensations the flesh gets during anal sex are completely different from what you get from anything else. The rectum is made up of nerve endings, some of which notify the brain to reward you with feel-good signals when stimulated.
For men, the prostate gland can be a source of intense pleasure. For the sprinting penis (sprinting… it makes me laugh :P), the tight ring of the anus can be a new source of intense pleasure.
5) What should I prepare for anal sex?
The most important advice for anyone who wants to try anal sex is: lubricant, condoms and patience.
The most common lubricant is Y-Jelly, a non-greasy, odorless substance available at most pharmacies.
The better lubricants, such as Astronglide, ID, Wet or Fore Play, can be bought at a good pharmacy, while most can be bought at a sex store. Don’t buy greasy lubricants. Make sure the lubricant you buy is ‘condom-ready’. Greasy lubricants, such as petroleum jelly or baby oil, destroy the condom long before you’ve finished having sex. And a lot of that greasy stuff builds up on the rectal wall, providing a breeding ground for bacterial feces.
6) Do I have to use a condom?
Even if you’re sure that neither you nor your partner have any medical conditions, it’s still a good idea to use a condom. The rectum is a hotbed for many of the sensual bacteria that can cause penile burning and UTIs. And using a condom also makes it easier to clean up afterward.
7) I worry that anal sex is dirty and filthy.
Anal sex can be dirty and filthy, but it can be avoided; after all, most people can tell when it’s time to get in the shower. Of course, condoms can help with cleanup afterward, and if you really care, then an enema can help prep you. If you do take an enema, read the instructions for use in detail.
8) What should we prepare before we have anal sex?
Patience is the third and final thing you should prepare for before having anal sex. The initial penetration is the most difficult part of anal sex – the anus is a tight ring of muscles at the opening of the rectum designed to remove waste from the body. Some of it moves at will, and some of it moves in response to stimulation. Your partner must relax and you must skillfully coax it to expand enough to accommodate your penis. Start by inserting a well-lubricated finger or a long, thin, synthetic male genitalia. Artificial genitals are more realistic, but the fingers can be bent freely and you can feel the muscles inside her anus squirming. Slowly slide a finger in and let her get used to it. Slowly pull the finger out and then back in. Let her anus slowly adjust to this kind of activity. Then put in a second finger. Think about how big your penis is, maybe two fingers are enough.
9) What position should we take during anal sex?
When it comes to real intercourse, choosing a position is important. Many women want to be on top in order to control the speed of penetration. Others either prefer to lie on their backs, or squat and penetrate from a rear position, or lie on their sides for the process. Choose the position that is best for you. As always, control yourself, take your time and use plenty of lubricant. People who enjoy anal sex often say ‘no amount of lubrication is too much’.
Listen to your partner–
If she tells you she is starting to feel pain, back off. Slowly, at some point in your sex life she will reach a point where her anus is relaxed enough to allow your penis to enter. If she does relax completely, then penetration should be completely painless. Since you’ve only just entered her, don’t go crazy and start pumping like crazy right away. Let her body get used to the sensation. Take your time. Eventually both of you will definitely be ready to take more.
10) Could I get pregnant from anal sex?
It is ‘technically’ impossible to get pregnant through anal sex; there is no channel for semen to run from the rectum to the vagina. However, anal sex is not a good method of contraception. Semen left behind after intercourse can leak into the perineum and cause what we call ‘splashconception’. The phenomenon. Every year, 8% of couples who use anal sex for contraception have children.
11) What if I don’t like it?
You may find that you don’t enjoy anal sex. It doesn’t matter, you don’t have to suffer through something that makes you feel unpleasant.