Stop feeling sorry for yourself or complaining about your lover’s inability to fulfill your desires. Instead of sitting there and complaining, spend some smarts and exert yourself in this matter of sex and find ways to benefit others and yourself.
Before today, you could have a thousand excuses to let your brain be lazy, but not from now on, because we are going to teach you a number of tricks that will make you no longer want, but also make the sexual relationship between you and your partner more points, and it is definitely worth trying again and again.
The first trick: sexual massage
If you are willing to explore each other’s senses together, a massage will take you into newer body play and sexual spaces for a richer sexual relationship.
You should remember the days when you were in a relationship and you exchanged caresses as often as you kissed. However, once a specific relationship is established, i.e. one that is very healthy and mutually reciprocal, there is often a lack of romantic excitement and mutually reciprocal eroticism in life. Yes, in our society, many couples have lost the precision of touching each other and have lost sight of the fact that there is a vast middle ground between handshaking and making love that can lead to greater intimacy and sexual interest, and sexual massage between lovers is one of those middle grounds that is worth checking out.
:: 12 pleasure points
Before massaging each other, let us first tell you a little secret about the body’s senses, there are quite a few pleasure points on our bodies that you have not yet developed or are blind to, and the pleasure points emphasized here may be quite sensitive to caressing because they are seldom exposed or caressed!
-Gentle massage of the breasts can be intensely pleasurable and erotic.
-Nipples respond to gentle caresses, increasing sexual arousal.
-Lips and mouth are sensitive to touch and can add sensuality.
-Massaging the lower abdomen will have a relaxing effect, elevating sexual response and anticipation.
-Massaging the inner thighs can help with sexual fluidity in addition to reducing sexual tension.
-Touching the earlobe quickly conveys sensual stimulation and pleasure.
-Caressing the back of the neck can provoke very strong sexual arousal.
-The gentle stroking of the armpits and soft inner upper arms will be pleasant.
-The buttocks are sexy and respond to a strong massage.
-The groin near the sex organs is quite a sexy place.
-The knee (behind the knee) is also highly sensitive to gentle massage and touch.
-Massage stimulates the tummy of the toe, which triggers a sexual response throughout the body.
● Preparation for massage
You can buy an inexpensive home massage cushion or mat cushion, or improvise by pulling out a folding mattress in the middle of the floor. If you have a sturdy dining table, you can also put a foam pad or blanket on it. Fold a pillow, blanket or towel over the massage.
You will also need some lubricants, massage oils, powders or lotions, and of course you can use essential oils which are very popular nowadays, all of which will make your hands smooth and fluid during the massage. Most experts recommend using some kind of field oil, such as grapeseed, sesame, almond or vegetable oil. Make sure they are at room temperature when you use them (cold oils can paralyze relaxed muscles). You can use one or more volatile oils or buy blended oils, and for flavors, you can use the following aromas that are considered to have a passionate effect: cedarwood, cinnamon, clove, rose, orange blossom, etc. However, it is important to note that essential oils should not be used directly on the skin.
The first step in the massage is to have your partner lie prone with their arms a few inches away from their body, their head and neck relaxed and not twisted, and if you don’t have a massage cushion or mat, utilize a pillow, or a thick towel, or a blanket to support each other’s bodies. Cover your partner’s back with a towel or thin blanket and rub your hands together for a few seconds to warm them up. Then, pour a few spoonfuls of lubricant onto your hands and get ready to start gently massaging your partner.
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Massage, there is a very important point to remember: that is, the breast belongs to the glands, not muscle, do not put pressure on the breast. The method is: put the fingertips of both hands in the middle of the bottom of the sternum, fingertips outward, to a short horizontal line to spread, smooth upward massage, but not beyond the breasts. Massaging under or around the breasts can moderately stimulate your partner’s libido. Cup your hands and gently cup them over the side and lower part of the breasts, gently stroking upward so that the breasts are held in your palms. Circle your fingers along the nipple and gently slide them over the nipple to gently arouse your partner.
face
Gently massaging your partner’s face brings a high level of security. Encircle his jaw and chin with your hands and fingers, then massage your hands upward along the jawbone to the ears, skimming your fingers soothingly upward and outward across his cheeks, and repeat this several times. Carefully trace the shape of your partner’s lips with your fingertips, gently and slowly massaging around the lips, the shoulders above the lips and the back.
Kneel next to your partner’s head (or stand if you’re using a table) and spend 1 to 2 minutes massaging at the tops of the shoulders; you’ll find a series of acupressure points you can apply pressure on to get rid of the hardness in the neck.
Here’s how: Squeeze his shoulders gently, then press the fingers of both hands on the two points below his skull (about 1 inch from his spine) for 5 seconds, then move down his neck 1 inch at a time, then apply pressure again. (Do this for a while, and your partner will tell you if you’re pressing in the right places.) Repeat these motions for a total of 6 pairs of acupressure points on the neck and upper shoulders, ending in the hollows of the shoulder bones. Then, press your hand directly onto your partner’s shoulder and glide the acupressure along the shoulder to each side.
Legs and hips
Move to the lower part of your partner’s body and massage his buttocks, practically kneading the fleshy areas of the buttocks, grasping and kneading the muscles with your hands and moving your thumbs and fourth fingers over the important thick layers. Use both fingers to spread the gluteal muscles at the intersection with the posterior thigh muscles, and then intensify the massage on this crease and the lower edge of the metacarpal bone a few times. Again, press each leg separately along the buttocks to the toes, using quick alternating (spaced), 5-finger spreading, slightly firm strokes in the area with the thigh muscles. One word of caution: if your partner has varicose veins in the calves, massage very, very gently and do not press on the varicose veins.
Next, bend one of your partner’s feet up and massage the calf, using your hands to encircle his ankle in a firm manner, kneading up to the knee and finally massaging his entire foot and heel. Repeat the process with the other foot.
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Using a back and forth flow, massage the very tops of your arms, from your shoulders to your wrists, keeping your thumb at the top and your other fingers circling your arms. Try the cross-massage method and massage the arm at the largest muscle. Then pull his arm to stretch it, massage the palm and wrist, and gently pull his fingers outward. Repeat with the other hand.
Head and neck
Return your hands to your partner’s shoulders and spend a few minutes massaging your partner’s neck, then work your way up into your partner’s hair, spreading your fingertips out and massaging his entire scalp as if you were washing his hair. Then, with one hand, place the thumb under the ear and the other fingers behind the skull and gently pull it towards you to relax the tension in the head. Then massage the ears, alternating with the temples, cheeks and jaw.
Quick foot and hand massage
and feet are the most incredibly sensitive bands (and the lightest), which makes them candidates for the best small massage areas in front of the TV. Here are two 10-minute routines you can do:Hands – Hold your partner’s hand in both hands, both palms up, and massage his palm. Then turn your partner’s hand over and press your thumb along the back of his hand between the tendons and bones. Repeat, then gently pull his arm outward and squeeze each finger like milk.
Now, to massage the fleshy part of the palm, turn his palm upwards and use your thumb to explore the muscular area of your partner’s palm, then, insert your two little fingers between his thumb and little finger and stretch his fingers to spread his palm upwards as much as possible. Finally, use both fingers to massage from the center of his palm to each finger at the same time. Repeat the same on the other hand.
Feet – Starting at the ankles, circle one of your partner’s feet with the fingers of both hands and massage the heel, the ball of the foot and the outer edge of the foot. Then, use your thumb to massage along the hamstrings and bones to the front of the foot and do it all over again with a rubbing motion.
Hold each toe with your thumb and forefinger, rubbing back and forth and gently pulling outward. Use your thumb to press on the outer edge of his foot just below the little toe, and as you press, let this pressure last for a few seconds. This will stimulate the acupressure points that relieve pressure on the shoulders. Repeat the same action on the other foot.
It feels like a step up.
There are also a few massage tips to remind you of.
Always stay in physical contact with your partner while moving both hands in regular beats or massaging.
Keep your movements slow and let each massage last a few minutes. The body remembers sensations and expects them, so repeating the same movement over and over again can be very comforting.
In areas where the joints are thin with skin (such as behind the knees) massage in a smooth manner without rubbing hard, letting your fingers follow the contours of the hollows of the bones, like this area of the shoulders.
Massage is like a path of discovery, allowing your hands to feel and sense the contours of your partner’s body.