There are many ways of kissing between lovers, from playful or tender lip contact to passionate kisses where the lips open and the tongues visit each other deeply, kissing someone you are crazy about is probably one of the most enjoyable things in life. But it is an amazing fact that a large number of people don’t know how to kiss, because you won’t be asked such questions in the exams, the teacher is naturally unlikely to pass on his knowledge to you (regardless of whether or not he himself is actually qualified), and of course the parents never think about whether or not you know how to kiss, even though they’ve been worrying a lot about your marriage. Mind you, a poor kiss can be a real disappointment. And a skillful kiss could be the beginning of a romantic evening.
The “lover’s kiss” (also known as the “French kiss”), which involves the entire mouth as well as the tongue, originated in prehistoric cultures when mothers nursed their children, and is still practiced even today in some remote villages in Europe. The mother chews the food herself and then, mouth to mouth, pushes it to the child with her tongue, which reacts in a search-like manner. For hygienic reasons, and because some associations believe that mouth-to-mouth contact can be sexually arousing, this type of feeding is no longer practiced, but the behavior continues with an erotic aspect among adults.
A passionate kiss is the first step for a couple to confess their sexual attraction to each other, and its disappearance is often the first sign when a relationship goes from strength to strength. According to a survey once done by the British Marital Relations Unit, it was found that couples whose marriages were in crisis had a greater tendency to make love than to kiss. Mouth-to-lip contact shows a special kind of intimacy, whereas mere intercourse seems more like routine, which explains why prostitutes never kiss their clients while they are receiving them.
The first thing you should do when kissing your lover for the first time is to use your lips and tongue to find out where his (or her) teeth are, so that you don’t collide with your own, which is just as impolite as touching the frame of your partner’s eyeglasses. Then remember that kissing is wild and intense: don’t get overly excited and repeat the same action endlessly, or your partner will get bored and lose concentration. Vary it up, sometimes take the initiative, sometimes let your partner take control.
Here are some tips for getting a good kiss.
※If you smoke and your partner doesn’t, then it’s a good time to quit. Non-smokers are heartened by the taste of tobacco.
*If you don’t know your partner well enough, then don’t eat stimulating foods like garlic and curry unless your partner agrees to you eating them or he/she eats them themselves.
※ Oral hygiene is very important to keep your mouth clean and odor free. Even from a health point of view, you should remove tartar, eat a normal and healthy diet, and keep your breath fresh.
*Don’t kiss or have oral sex if you have a mouth or throat infection. Kissing can transmit about 250 types of bacteria and viruses through saliva, although so far AIDS has not been proven to be transmitted through it.
If you have a moustache, don’t forget that it can be a major barrier between you and your lover’s skin, and there’s no doubt that a man with a clean shaven moustache is more likely to arouse his lover’s lust. Having a short moustache can also be uncomfortable. Don’t believe me? Try kissing with a moustache for once.
※Women who wear make-up should take it off and don’t get into the bad habit of making out with make-up on. Most men like to kiss a face without make-up on.
For the best results in kissing, all the muscles of the mouth and tongue should be utilized. It’s far better to kiss a mouth that responds to your passion than to kiss a weak, flabby mouth ※Remember there’s nothing worse than kissing a mouth that drools too much.
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