There was a graduate student couple who had a lovely daughter after three years of marriage. But the wife said she never experienced the taste of orgasm, the sex life is gradually cold. One day, buried in scientific research, the husband occasionally flipped through a magazine, as if waking up from a dream, said to his wife: “So you women also have a sensitive clitoris like a man’s penis.”
It also dawned on his wife that he consciously touched her clitoris during sex that night and she had her first orgasm.
I am afraid that this kind of true story is not an isolated phenomenon. According to an extensive survey of sexologists, most wives and about half of the husbands do not know exactly where the clitoris, and even less clear about its function and role, and as a result, during sex, both parties do not understand, the woman did not have an orgasm because of what?
The clitoris is located at the top of the anterior conjunction of the labia and consists of a pair of clitoral sponges. The entire clitoris consists of three segments: the clitoral pedicle, the clitoral body, and the clitoral head. A well-developed clitoris is about 2 centimeters long and 0.5 centimeters in diameter. The clitoris is the most nerve-rich and sensitive sex organ of women, which is usually wrapped by the clitoral prepuce, and will only be exposed after entering the state of sexual excitement. The clitoris is usually wrapped by the clitoral foreskin and is only exposed when it is in a state of sexual arousal.
Sexologists have found that 89% of female orgasms come from clitoral stimulation. It is unthinkable for a man to have an orgasm without stimulating his penis, and similarly, 5-15 minutes of clitoral stimulation is essential for a woman to have an orgasm or to enjoy the perfect sexual experience.
The most common misconception is that many couples think that the wife’s orgasm is because of the husband’s penis or because the man with the orgasm of the approaching deeper and deeper into the reason, the result is often left behind regret. In fact, the wife’s orgasm mainly rely on the husband in the penis insertion, pubic hair unintentionally friction to the wife’s clitoris, insertion of very deep unintentionally increase the contact area and pressure on the clitoris. Even if the husband inserted not deep or even not inserted, as long as the appropriate stimulation of touching the clitoris, the wife can also reach orgasm. That is to say, the depth of the female vagina is the lack of sensual nerves, the main sexually sensitive parts of women are concentrated in the clitoris, and insertion is only to provide the husband with the opportunity to achieve orgasm.
Husband to his wife’s clitoral stimulation should also pay attention to the “art”, generally always give the first kiss and breast stimulation, and then stimulate the clitoris. Clitoral stimulation must be exchanged, always a technique will reduce the stimulation; and from time to time to pat the perineum and groin to enhance sexual stimulation. The husband should remember that the head of the clitoris is as sensitive as the glans of his penis, and should not touch it too roughly, as this may cause pain and discomfort. To prevent hard friction, it is important to feel that the vagina is already producing fluid.
The main reason why many women lack sexual desire is because she has never experienced the wonderful feelings in orgasm, so there is a lack of inner motivation to seek orgasm. The lack of female orgasm is certainly many reasons, but in terms of normal husband and wife relationship, with the husband in the foreplay stage of his wife’s clitoris without stimulation or not enough stimulation (kissing and breast stimulation), and most of the sexual intercourse is the use of male on female face-to-face sexual intercourse position.
This traditional position has a pity: not too easy to stimulate the wife’s clitoris, all rely on pubic hair on the clitoris of unintentional friction. Some women in the sex life is always tight legs, or due to the body’s limited ability to open, it is not easy to make the clitoris by the appropriate stimulation, the results of orgasm is little or no.
Therefore, many sexologists proposed the female supreme position. The use of female supremacy has at least the following advantages: First, the wife has been put into the sexual life of the enthusiasm; Second, can fully liberate the wife’s whole body, can take the initiative to find out the most stimulating way of their own sexual behavior; Third, it is able to directly stimulate to the clitoris, is conducive to his wife’s orgasm; Fourth, the husband will not bring any inconvenience and discomfort.
The position of the female clitoris is very closely related to same-sex feelings. A sexologist once on two groups of women (each group of 300 people) to investigate and analyze, the first group only in the clitoris is in a state of excitement will experience orgasm; the second group in every sexual relations can get physical satisfaction. The distance from the head of the clitoris to the upper edge of the vaginal opening was 1-4 centimeters in the first group, and no more than 1 centimeter in the second group. It can be seen that the women with a higher clitoral position had to overcome more difficulties than the second group in making the transition from clitoral orgasm to full blown mixed orgasm.
If the husband does not go to stimulate the clitoris, it will be very difficult for women in the first group to reach orgasm. Therefore, husbands should know the height of their wives’ clitoral parts, and should give their wives with higher clitoral positions adequate caressing stimulation to make up for the lack of intercourse.
Both husband and wife to understand and observe the position of the clitoris, is by no means any obscene thing, but let the husband and wife sex tends to be perfect sensible move. The wife can observe in the mirror, not only should understand its position, but also know the size of their clitoris and clitoral foreskin length, if the clitoral head in the erected or shorter than 5 mm, or the foreskin is still covering it, can not be fully exposed, should consider going to the gynecologist to do a small surgery, the clitoral circumcision or cut off. Of course, the vast majority of women don’t need this and simply focus on stimulating the clitoris. Wives should allow their husbands to observe the exact position of the clitoris, and even allow them to stimulate (not necessarily with intercourse) the clitoris to feel orgasm.