When it comes to anal sex probably a lot of people on the internet would be averse to it. My personal belief is that prepared anal sex is quite enjoyable and unprepared anal sex is not only painful but also quite unsanitary.
Most women are quite conservative when it comes to anal sex, and eight out of ten are reluctant. Even if they are willing, you have to find the right opportunity to ask for it, or else you will be rebuffed. I personally have been fortunate to have a few female companions “permission”, there have been so many times the experience. I would like to share my personal experience with you.
Let’s talk about cleansing first, but of course this is mainly for women. Before you do this, you need to empty your bowels (I recommend using a bowel cleanser), then you need to wash yourself and apply some liquid soap (preferably non-irritating) with your fingers (one or two) to clean inside and outside the anus in the shower. This is for hygienic purposes and also as a “warm up”, otherwise you will be caught off guard when the behemoth arrives.
The second most important thing is the choice of lubricant. Painful anal sex is often caused by dryness, so it is very important to keep the anus lubricated (I want to emphasize this point again and again). There are specialized lubricants on the market, such as “KY”. Most of these lubricants are water-based and can be easily washed off, but they dry out very easily, so I don’t recommend using them for anal sex.
In fact, the best thing to use for anal sex is Vaseline, which is oil-based, doesn’t dry out, and lubricates the best. Men and women should be used, men apply more on the glans, women need men to use their fingers to apply Vaseline evenly in the anus. Apply it deeper because men’s penises are usually longer than their fingers.
Foreplay is a must before formal anal sex! The man should make time to make the woman enjoy being with the man as much as possible so she can relax mentally and physically. I would use a finger with a little lubricant and swirl it around her anal opening to get her in the mood, then enter slowly with one finger (remember to go slow!) Observe her expression and if she feels comfortable insert the other finger, moving slowly! Then do a gentle thrusting motion (your finger nails must be trimmed and smoothed or she will be in pain).
Once she is relaxed and starting to enjoy herself, you should be ready for the actual penetration. Before penetration I like to have the woman relaxed with her knees up to her chest and the person lying flat on her back. A fluffy pillow is placed under her buttocks to adjust the angle and to give her some room to move around as well.
Your penis must be hard when you enter, yet your movements must be gentle. I used my own glans to kiss the point of stabbing her anus, and so she began to relax, her anus also began to get bigger, and then slowly into. Once not, you can try a few more times, never hard (do not believe you take a pencil to try, not to mention the pencil than that much thinner). The feeling when you enter is really very good, you experience it yourself!
When entering, be sure to move slowly, and pumping must be slow, while thrusting can be slightly faster. The other side of the pain is a very spoiled thing. Sex is a matter of two people, don’t be selfish, only care about their own pleasure.
If she starts to get used to it and enjoys the different sensations. Let her try contracting her anal muscles (so make sure you ask for a bowel movement at the beginning or else… hehehehe) and you will definitely enjoy the sensations. Be careful to keep the conversation going and use your fingers to stimulate her clitoris and vaginal opening to give her double the pleasure.
One thing to re-emphasize! You must not go too heavy and deep or you will cause spasms in the large and small intestines, which can be quite painful for anyone! Remember that!!! Remember!!!
Your girlfriend is not a professional actress in an adult movie, so don’t use the movie as a sample! Also, there is no sensation of going to the bottom with anal sex, your front end will not get in the way, so don’t make a habit of trying to poke to the bottom, a habit that can also cause pain to your female partner.
That’s all I have to say, and I welcome the discussion.